Are You Being Abused?

Whether it’s mental or physical, abuse takes a devastating toll on the life of the person who is being victimized. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, every day 4 women are murdered by their boyfriends or husbands. The DOJ also reports that domestic violence is the number one cause of emergency room visits by women. Here are three sure-fire signs that you are being abused in your relationship and three places you can turn to for help if it’s happening to you!

1. Constant Criticism – you are in a relationship where your man is consisting carping about your faults. The love is gone and it’s been replaced by a verbal barrage about everything that’s wrong with you. This is abuse.


2. Two Toms – your man Tom has two lives; the one he lives when he’s with you and the one when you’re not around. Increasingly, Tom spends more and more time in his life without you. When he’s with you, it’s hell. Bickering, resentment and tension makes your time together unbearable as if he only comes around so he can hurl verbal insults at you and abuse you. You are also completely excluded from the life he lives when you’re not around.


3. Condescending Comparisons – your man is constantly comparing you to other women. When he does it, you cringe. This is a sign of abuse.

If you’re in an abusive relationship, get help here!

1. S.A.F.E. or Stop Abusive for Everyone has a great website crammed with information on domestic violence and abuse - http://www.safe4all.org/resource-list/view/23118


2. www.HelpAbusedWomen.org – an awesome website chock full of information.


3. Assaulted Women’s Helpline – an organization that helps abused women throughout Canada. http://www.awhl.org/


by Tasha Joseph Cunningham